There are many things that make a relationship work, but one that stands out is this: Compliment.
Relationships, just like any living thing, needs nurturing and nourishment to grow and bloom and bear fruit. People who are in a relationship, such as dating couples, and most especially those who are married, need to understand not only the “why”, but most importantly the “how” – why it is important to take good care of the relationship and how to take good care of it!
Living things, including love, withers and die when left unattended. Thus, in order to keep love alive and the relationship growing, blooming, and blossoming, it’s imperative that the parties involved in the relationship nurture it by generously complimenting each other.
Compliment
The word compliment is an action word which means to give praises, to give or offer a kind word or an appreciative remark. Often, in relationships, as time progresses, complimenting each other becomes a rarity. This should not be the case. When a person is complimented, that persons feels appreciated; he feels better about himself. When this happens, he becomes a better person to be with – someone happier and more contended. The absence of a compliment makes a person feel unimportant and unappreciated and unloved. This makes him feel bad about himself, and everything begins to fall apart for this person – to the point that relationships are affected and in worst cases, destroyed.
This is the advice relationship experts recommend: look for the good in each other. If at your first try you can’t seem to find anything good or nice about the other person, try to look harder. Look beyond the imperfections. One relationship guru said to “look with a new eye” – then you will see something good. Here’s another tip: try to understand the other person by being on his shoes; look at things through his “eyes”. Have you heard about the movie Freaky Friday? If you haven’t, then maybe it’s time you try to borrow a copy of the movie and learn from it! I guarantee you’d learn something very important from it!
Focus on the good; criticize less. Give allowances for mistakes; remember that nobody is perfect. Say thank you even when the other person is just doing his responsibility to you. Take notice of the sweet smell of perfume; say he looks nice when he’s clean shaven. Little acts of kindness go a long way. Help each other when you can. Be polite; avoid sarcasm.
Again, be generous in complimenting in each other, and be honest about your compliments. Doing these small acts of kindness will help you grow together in your relationship, and it’ll make your love for each other grow stronger in time.
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